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However, you mentioned that it
is your friends who don't have children themselves who are avoiding
you. This should give you a clue as to the most likely reason.
Is it possible that they are avoiding you because of their feelings
about your having had a child? Using my own life as an example,
I can remember how difficult it was to spend time with pregnant
women or new mothers after suffering a miscarriage.
While I never told my friends why I was avoiding them, there
were times I just could not bring myself to pick up the phone
and call. I would mean to call but somehow would never get around
to it. Those friends who are not calling or visiting may be experiencing
some of the same feelings.
While on one level, your friends may be very happy for you, on
a deeper level, your good fortune may remind them of something
they want very much but cannot have -- for whatever reason. In
some cases, they may not even be aware of their jealousy or sadness.
They just never seem to get around to calling.
Keep this in mind before you
talk to them about the problem. It may help you a little bit
with your anger if you have determined that their behavior is
coming from a deep place of pain. Your compassion for their pain
will also help you avoid alienating them.
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